Are you on the wrong planet?
Figure it out!
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Dear Reader,
I am going through the winter phase. We all do, at some point, don’t we?
It’s also a perfect time to reflect on one’s strengths, choices and mistakes.
We are human - and it’s fine to make mistakes as long as we learn what they teach us.
Move on. Life is about adapting to changes within ourselves and around us.
Increasingly, relationships are tinged with a transactional template on the lines of, “I did this for you, now it’s your turn” - we think ROI when it comes to everything, right?
But dear friend, here’s the thing, that’s not love.
Love expects NOTHING in return. Love doesn’t worry about taking risks.
In love, only the present matters.
We choose a safe, secure and templatized existence; we are afraid to break. To fail.
We put a price tag on relationships or people we care about - that’s business - not love.
We extract things out of people we love - vows, promises, gifts, etc. That too is not love. Love is enough and more rewarding on its own - it needs no props, no frills.
“A mind all logic is like a knife all blade,” Rabindranath Tagore observed, “It makes the hand bleed that uses it.”
When I read
’s ‘Manic Pixie Dream Girl’, I could instantly relate to something vital unraveling within me. Read her newsletter to know what I mean.
Ann’s powerful words coursed through my consciousness:
I know that I can only be there for people because I’ve let myself really love, and lose something.
Glancing at the TV screen that hung above the bar, I watched tiny bodies throw a ball around on a bright green field. Earlier in the day, I’d swiftly broken everything I owned into two categories. I wondered if living through this great unraveling would require me to do the same thing, but with people: the ones who can go into the dark with me, and the ones who can’t.
I leaned back in my stool and let out a sigh. “If you’re looking for a relationship without loss,” I prefaced, “you’ve come to the wrong planet.”
last quote
“If anyone learns anything from me, it should be this: don’t be afraid to express love or find love or show love or seek out love. Even if it’s not returned. Trust me, love is always a good thing.”
- Melissa Beck (The Bookbinder’s Daughter)
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last thoughts
Be love; expect nothing in return
Take risks; follow your heart
Don’t lead a templatized existence
Listen and trust your voice within